Love Yourself and the Importance of Self Care

It’s Valentine’s Day Month and for all the singletons out there, it can be eye-rollingly less than fun to be excluded from all the couple festivities and heart shaped pastries. We’re throwing a different spin on Valentine’s Day month in celebrating being single and honouring your independence and self-love within relationships. In short, we’ve put together a small interactive guide to dating yourself, accepting your glorious independence and taking the time to be awesome just by yourself. Self-love can be daunting if you’ve never had the opportunity or lost your personal sparkle. It’s important to get to know yourself and be proud of the person you see in the mirror. Without further adieu, it’s time to celebrate Love Month with the first person on your Valentine Day list; You.

The First Date

How do you imagine the perfect date? Is it at your favourite restaurant in heels or going to see a new movie? Art show? Making a special dinner at home? Dance lessons? Science Museum? Coffee shop? Karaoke? Comedy Club? Every couple starts with the first date, so why not take yourself out on a night on the town or go experience something inspiring. Throw on some red lipstick and treat yourself to a romantic date. Get yourself some flowers, kid. It’s your night. Make it a regular thing.

The Mixed Tape

If you can’t express it with words, a song usually can. Make yourself a playlist of songs that make you proud to be yourself and say "yeah! That's my jam!" Own it, dance to it in your bathrobe, sing to it in the shower and listen with pride. Pick songs that speak to your core and spend time doing this. Include rock power ballads, 80’s Diva Mix, angry breakup songs…this is your serenading mix for you.

Song Suggestions:

Go Your Own Way, Fleetwood Mac

Suddenly I see, KT Tunstall

Titanium, David Guetta/Sia

Diamonds on the Soles of her shoes, Paul Simon

Every Little thing she Does is Magic, The Police

I’m Still Standing, Elton John

Best of You, Foo Fighters

I will Survive, Gloria Gaynor

Dancing with Myself, Billy Idol

Bitch, Meredith Brooks

Hate on Me, Jill Scott

Bulletproof, La Roux

Moving on Up, M People

It’s Your Thing, The Isley Brothers

Ain’t Nobody’s Business, Billie Holiday


Take a spa day at home making face masks, foot scrubs, lip balms, put cucumbers on your eyes, take a warm bath and indulge in one of our goat milk soap bars in your favourite dessert scent, use an essential oil like lavender, peppermint, orange and lemon in a diffuser, room spray or in the shower. Go for a massage, listen to meditation music, shave your legs if you want, cozy up on the couch and watch your favourite movie, make a smoothie, light one of our delicious soy wax candles and create a calm evening just for you.

Do you knit? Paint? Sing or play an instrument? What do you love to do that is unique to you? Do you Like building shoe box houses or looking for four leaf clovers? Self care is about remembering what recharges you when you’re at the end of your battery life. Do what you love that makes you breathe, makes you feel loved, calm and most of all; rejuvenated.

Check out The Dating Diva’s For 25 Home Spa recipes found in your kitchen!

Apple Pie Skin Polish

Spa Home Treatments

Goat's Milk Soap Bars

Soy Wax Candles

Change Your Space

If you’re into Marie Kondo’s clean up method, there are a million methods to the madness of letting go of items in your household that do not spark joy. Especially if you’ve gone through a breakup or need to reclaim your space. Go through every item, donate, sell or give away that which does not serve you. Move your furniture around, get the space flowing again and create a space that speaks just to you. Repaint, redecorate, get the modge podge out or geek out on Pinterest for some new space ideas that propel you into your future self.

5 Books to Read to get to know yourself better

Love Letters of Great Men, John C. Kirkland

The Book of Me, Rachel Kempster and Meg Leder

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson

It’s Called Break Up Because It’s Broken, Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt

Get Your $h!t Together Journal, Sarah Knight


Whether you are single, married, in-between or never been. Make a commitment to yourself to practice self love and self care every day with a ring, bracelet, earrings or something you can wear to remind yourself of your life long relationship with yourself. The pinky is often a neglected finger which is the trending ring statement to wear as a symbol and a reminder to love yourself every day. 

Celebrating Your relationships

Love Month is also a time to celebrate love with the special relationships in your life like family, friends and pets. Show someone you care about them by jazzing up their day with a joke, selfie face with pencils as walrus teeth, take them out for lunch or just remind them that they are special to you and how much you appreciate them. Your gesture will not go unnoticed and can start a new tradition of getting out of your comfort zone.

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